Body image is the perception someone has of their own body. Our society invites us to believe that we are only attractive if we are:
- slim, youthful and have clear skin,
- the ideal female shape – hour glass or curvy, flat stomach
- the ideal male shape – athletic or ‘V’ shaped, broad shoulders, a ‘6 pack’
Many of us are not and, as a result, can get into a spiral of self hatred and loathing of our bodies also known as body ‘dysmorphia’.
How therapy for Poor Body Image or Body Hatred helps
There is a way forward, this is to realise and accept that this hatred is not about body size or shape, rather it is a way of blaming ourselves for what is not right in our lives.
If you hate your body and would like to stop feeling this way therapy can help.
During your sessions you will work on gradually noticing how you speak to yourself and how damaging this can be. With support and practice, you will begin to choose a different way to speak to yourself and build on this to create a happier, more comfortable self image.
Imagine a seven year old child whose parent wakes her in the morning and tells her how ugly or fat she is, imagine how miserable she feels that day at school and how she blames herself. Now instead imagine a child whose parent wakes her and tells her how lovely she is and how much she is loved. How different will her day be?
That is the difference it makes to an adult too! We can learn to be that kind parent to ourselves and speak kindly to ourselves so that we feel good (or at least happier) about our bodies instead of hating them.
Take the first step to a healthier view of yourself with Body Image Issues Therapy
Most of our therapists work with poor body image and related issues. Sophie Boss works specifically with this issue and often runs workshops. See the directory of counsellors and psychotherapists in London.